When you consider the number of responsibilities you’re going to have with your child when they are born, you may want to think about reducing life’s other stresses somewhat, especially when you consider coming home when pregnant after the baby is born. But what do you need to think about if you are going to move while you are pregnant or just after, and how can you make it less stressful on yourself?
While pregnant with my first child I had just sold my home and was awaiting to move into another. As my husband and I waited for the terms – we had rental tenants that we agreed to have remain in the home until they were able to secure lodging – we lived with my sister in her 900 sq ft apartment. It was less than ideal but I was able to get my rest as my two roommates cleaned and made dinners on evenings I was too sick.
When we were finally able to move in we had some minor renos to do before we could officially settle in. By this time I was 5 months pregnant and tired so we hired help for painting and cleaning. I was able to prioritize my health and wellness first as we slowly began to unpack after the painting was completed. Here are some tips I gathered during this hectic time.
Declutter and Get Help
It is so important that you don’t overwhelm yourself, because you have to navigate so much in terms of the move. Moving to a new house is physically and mentally exhausting. And if you are pregnant, you will need to make sure that you are getting as much help as possible. This means having professional movers help you out, and you can learn more about the best type of help for you. Additionally, you’ve got to declutter, because this means you’ll have a lot less to move. I found The Home Edit or Marie Kondo’s KonMari technique to help prioritize items like clothes, shoes, electronics and more. But also, if you are pregnant and you get into the nesting phase, this becomes a natural by-product of wanting to prepare your home for your little one’s arrival. By month 6 I was in full nesting mode in preparation of little one’s arrival. This was the first home we’d become a family of 3 after all.
Moving With a Baby
When you are preparing to move with a baby, you’ve got to be aware of the impact it could have on their sleep. If you are a mother-to-be, this is something that you really have to consider. Not to scare you, but any form of change can cause disruptions in their sleeping patterns. Your baby will thrive on routine, and this means that you’ve got to find ways to preserve this. A new environment could be very disruptive to their sleep but also your own. Try to make the transition as smooth as possible with maintaining nap times and keeping up your milk supply by not missing a feed. Then again, if you are finding yourself in dire need of sleep like I did try to pump some milk for your partner to feed you child. There’s no shame in allowing yourself time to sleep even if that means feeding your child formula.
Being Aware of Postnatal Recovery
If you are looking to move house after the baby is born, you may want to give it a few months, because it could potentially take up to a year to recover from the birth. This is all dependent on the circumstances of the birth, but if you are looking to move house just after your baby is born, it’s so important to have as much support as possible. You want to make a new home for this baby, and therefore you will have almost a repeat of the nesting instinct, but you’ve got to focus on your health and keep this at the forefront of your mind. Just because you’re not able to clean the house properly or make it perfect right now doesn’t mean you can’t fix these things in the future. I struggled with allowing myself sleep while the little one napped en lieu of tidying the house. There were days I regretted it!
What a New Place Means for You
Being a new mother in a new location is intimidating. You’ve got the whole experience of being a parent for the first time, but when you are bringing a new child into the world you will also have a new location for you to make other mommy friends and enhance your social connections. While moving isn’t the easiest thing, there are benefits to moving after you have a baby, but just make sure that you have all the help you can get. I find Facebook groups can be helpful in finding other parents in the same circumstances as you. It’s easier to facilitate conversation and ask for help over these forums and slowly move to friendship or support.